Wonder in a beautiful life | Todd Vickers via Vivriti.org
“1. There can be no surprise without discovery.
Discovery is like a free fall; a new understanding of something previously taken for granted; a surprise affection, something beautiful or new knowledge. With discovery we are thrust into the moment. The experience is vitalizing, it awakens our senses. Think of a child who first sees a butterfly, they chase it, its colors are so beautiful, it’s dance is so erratic. We can envision the child laughing and even shouting with delight. If the butterfly flies away the child might burst into tears. That’s a part of discovery too. It’s not just children that discover.
Our wonder might come as a dance, a beautiful song, a sunrise or a new friend or lover that thrusts us into the moment.
2. Discovery is vulnerable.
Discovery could also be risky. People feel scared of discovery and forget the part wonder plays in fun! Who or what inspires us to wonder? The chances are…” Read more at Vivriti.org
Youth Suicide; Todd Vickers takes a hard look at the problem focusing on the stifling of sexuality to conform with tradition. Currently more educated young people die by their own hand than anywhere else in India, why? Let’s not balk to talk about sex when what’s at risk are the lives of our promising youth and the future they can create.
Remember the problem is youth suicide, not the emotional discomfort of those who adhere to a custom. Let’s keep the priorities straight.
“The truthfulness needed may go far beyond what our parents ever imagined. Every human advance today came about as an alternative to what went before, that process of advance is still ongoing. The conventional mind feels certainty and that’s absurd in the light of the change in conventions over the centuries. Every advocate for a new advance began as a minority. If we wish to recon with sex honestly, harmlessly and pave the way to more wholesome access to freer choices, we need to be part of a new kind of thinking that adapts to the world as it is not as our ancestors saw it.
People need to feel safe and respected in their sexual self discovery.
People don’t want the wrath of the orthodox to crush them especially women whose desires lay hidden behind fears about reputation, pregnancy, abuse, loss of freedom and livelihood. I’m saying we must put an end to using sex as a weapon.
…We cannot slut-shame women for …” Read More at Vivriti.org
Understand Intimate Relationships
We perpetuate the misery because now another person believes something fictional is factual. Fictions have consequences in the real world. Think of prejudices or preëmptive war.
In miss-understanding pain we hurt others without knowing we are doing so.
We do not love another’s ideas of themselves. We love the people who can let go of these fictions. Unfortunately people build relationships out of supporting each other’s fictions, understanding pain becomes impossible and people even call this love and support! It’s more like a recipe for miserable failure. Meditation is… Read More at Vivriti.org
Let us boldly face the mistake of slut shaming. It’s about freedom for everyone.
One of the benefits of my participating in a free love commune is the recognition that any woman’s sexuality might surpass that of any man. When women feel safe and respected, their sexuality can grow wings. Read More…
Elephant Journal Publishing -Todd Vickers
Let’s look at both monogamy and commitment with fresh eyes and consider five reasons to question both cultural ideas.
Let’s not oversimplify the deceit exemplified by Ashley Madison. Widespread cheating suggests sexual impulses exist beyond monogamy.
Many arguments against freer sexuality provoke fear and even persecution exemplified in slut shaming, honor killings and LGBT harassment.
The discovery of trial and error expands our choices. Discovery also exposes our mistakes.
For example, discovering what sex will not do liberates us from our imagination.
I treat lovers as friends—this word means nothing without freedom.
My friends come and go, make love with whoever they wish and speak their minds. If their pursuits separate us, their happiness is still precious. A friendship doesn’t require our desires to be always in harmony. I live in such friendships whether or not the relationship involves sex. Read More… go to Elephant Journal
An article by Todd Vickers published at Street Articles.
Faulty beliefs lay dormant in our minds like a Trojan horse, perhaps a prejudice about ourselves or the world. It’s harder to expose the faults of a belief when the people around us also hold the same belief. Unfortunately, we are not lucky enough to discover all false or bad beliefs by ourselves. History affords us many tragedies with roots in deeply held beliefs. Let’s not ignore them and throw away precious lessons perhaps acquired by our ancestors through painful trials.
When calling into question spiritual beliefs, it’s easy to hurt people’s feelings, especially if the beliefs provide comfort, prestige or something held valuable to the one who believes. Yet, painful feelings are not an argument… Read More